Gilxs Wendes, 28, is originally from Portsmouth but now lives in London. He works in IT. We caught up with him to find out exactly what couchsurfing is like.
A friend first introduced me to Couchsurfing. She said that it wasnt her thing but I would probably like it, and she was right. I think she had reservations because she was afraid. Weve been brought up with the idea of stranger danger being drummed into us ever since we were little, and its very hard to shrug off.
But if you think about it, you can go into a bar and start chatting to a random person, and even go home with them, but in reality you know nothing about them. With Couchsurfing (www.couchsurfing.org) you do have some background knowledge on a person. You can see what interests you share, look at their photos, the things people say about them, and get an idea of whether you are likely to get on.
"Its not about not forking out for a hotel, I could afford one, but its more about being let into peoples lives."
Ive been on three main trips and used Couchsurfing I tend to drive and stop off to stay with people along the way. Its not about not forking out for a hotel, I could afford one, but its more about being let into peoples lives. On one trip I stayed with a girl in Belgium. We agreed to meet in the city center and within ten minutes we were shopping for a birthday present for her Mum. I met her friends, got invited to something else that was going on that evening, and then they persuaded me to stay the next day. And so it goes on.
On my last trip I bought a campervan and went to Berlin, Germany, with a good friend, someone we both knew and someone we didn't know at all. In fact, we found it easier to get couches as a group of four, perhaps because people felt less pressure on them to entertain. Something that did help was creating our own blog that people could look at before they met us, so that they could get an idea of who were are and what we are like. We used to spend hours looking for a McDonalds so that we could upload our latest updates!
Couch is quite a wide definition. It might be a bed, or it could even be a back garden that you sling your tent up in. Breakfast is sometimes part of the deal, but not always. Ive been cooked fabulous breakfasts, but you might equally take them out to breakfast as a way of saying thank you (or take along a bottle of wine or cook them dinner: I always try to do or take something as a way of showing my appreciation). There have been occasions where people have given me their keys and say help yourself to breakfast, Ill see you later. There are no hard and set rules and thats part of the attraction.
I enjoy it so much I even couch surf in the UK. I recently went to York with a friend and rather than get a hotel we couch surfed. But its not all about travelling and staying over. There are meetings where you can meet and network with other people who are part of the network. Its what I did when I came to London and its a great way to get established in a new area. Now half of my London friends are Londoners and half people visiting the city. I dont host myself as Im currently not able to, but I do run weekly meetings.
"Its a very social thing to be part of..."
We have a hugely active community, and believe me when I say there are groups for almost everyone. Its a very social thing to be part of...even families join and get together with other families with children of their own age.
For anyone new to couchsurfing I would say that you do need to think about safety. When you join, fill in your profile and interact so that people get to know you, and come along to meetings so that people can give you references. Likewise, when you are planning your trips look at your possible hosts and their own profiles. Check that their photos are recent, theyve filled in their profile and look at what other people have said about staying with them. This isnt merely about looking for somewhere free to stay, it is about joining a community. Its not luxury living, but a different system with different way of doing things. Dont make guesses at what you think it should be like. You need to get involved to see for yourself. Invest some time into it and it will work for you.
You can also read Michaela Grill's couch surfing experience, I couchsurfed on a water bed for a female perspective.